Your Plan B

Life is definitely not linear. We can get so pinned into an idea that we don’t realize that possibilities exist outside our realm of understanding. We argue with ourselves and fight resistance (typically within ourselves) to situations that aren’t working out or causing stress.

What are you resisting? What do you want to change?

When you answer these questions, you may find it challenging to make amends or solve your situation. What about the situation stirs you so much that it doesn’t agree with you? Is it a person? Is it the job? The responsibilities in the job? The culture?

Most people we know ended up living their Plan B, or even sometimes, their Plan C or D. You know, the one they didn’t intentionally set out for, the one that may have seemed “less than” at the time of inception of the glorious Plan A. I personally always plan for A-F, with A being the best and easiest outcome in my mind. Plan A, to me, is the plan that goes smoothly and works well for everyone. When we plan for A, we also fail to realize all the factors involved and end up with a different version of circumstances while still mostly meeting our objective.

In my experience of playing out various plans, the most remarkable thing is that I learned all the variables that supported my original plan. I may not fully appreciate all the variables and how they are “messing with” my perfect plan in real-time. When I keep an open mind, I learn. I learned about my limited understanding, limiting beliefs and knowledge, and other people’s perspectives (along with potential resources ) that support my plan. All of this can be related to an objective in your day, or it can also be related to a plan in life. A degree you were going to go to school for. A place you were going to move to—the marriage you wanted.

Release Expectation and Outcome

When we release the outcome of what it is supposed to look like, the other plans can be so much more beautiful and meaningful for our lives. The roads less traveled are the paths we walk that build character within ourselves and challenge our biases. In hindsight, Plan B typically worked out better all the way around, helping shape us into better people and providing better skill sets to help us in the future.

So the next time your plan doesn’t work out, you don’t get the raise you want, you begin to date, and the first ones don’t work out, remember that each experience is shaping you to teach you more about yourself. These experiences immerse you into a different reality that helps you to ask better questions about what may have disappointed you about the situation, hone your understanding of what you want in the future, or realize that you don’t even know why you wanted it in the first place.

And sometimes, it saves us from ourselves.

With love and truth,

Dr. T

PS. This Summer, 2024, my new book, Truth & Dare, will be born. Truth & Dare is a book for every person who has wanted more from their life. Ones who are in limbo on their path, and need clarity on the next steps. Ones who have felt they were not good enough, and have swallowed their pride to live in someone else’s expectations. I want to help you make your quantum leap into the life that is your personal truth. The life you were meant to live. Your divine purpose. 

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